Text: Mal. 2:14-16
Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
God has made His mind known concerning our homes. As a legal consultant for a leading civil society organization on the eradication Gender Based Violence, it pains me how much homes are under the attack of the enemy. Every day more homes are breaking up. Divorce rate is increasing tremendously. More disturbing is that, of the families battling with domestic violence or divorce, whom we have helped with counseling and/or legal aid, more than 90% profess to be Christians.
It is quite clear that the devil is fighting a very strategic warfare against God’s children. He’s fighting, today, against generations yet unborn. He want to win much grounds even before they breath their first. He knows that successive generation of true Christians that have their homes well founded in the word of God will be too much for him to handle. Thus he is doing his best against the very first institution set up by God. He knows that this institution is the first to receive the dominion mandate from God. Hence his best weapon is DIVORCE.
This generation is most affected because we seem to go into marriage with the backdoor of divorce still open to us. Beloved, let us mean it when we say “for better for worse till death do us part”. Unfortunately, simple things like money, friends, alcohol, personal idiosyncrasies, now do us part. Are we simply fair weather Christians? Do we obey God only when there’s no sacrifice attached to it? Following God and keeping His precepts require singleness of heart. The scriptures says concerning the patriarchs that had their heart on the the pilgrimage to the heavenly city, “And truly, if they had been mindful of that country from whence they came out, they might have had opportunity to have returned.” (Heb. 11:15). Even our unbelieving parents endured a lot to stay in their homes because of their children.
Of course, I believe that the sanctity of life supercede the sanctity of marriage and I don’t counsel people to sacrifice their lives to for a marriage. However, if we enter into marriage with the right mindset and made the little, little sacrifices needed per time, we may never have to choose between our lives and our homes.
Another challenge is that we are so nearsighted. We think only of now. We think only of the immediate and ourselves; “I can’t sacrifice my job for any man”; “I can’t take that from any woman” “I have my life to live” e.t.c. Meanwhile, the devil has your children, grand children and great grand children in mind when he started that little argument between you and your spouse. He knows the ripple effect of your divorce or domestic violence. He knows the effect that that slap you gave your wife in the presence of your son will have in his psychology for a very long time. You see, he that loses sight of the ultimate will be a slave of the immediate. Whatever you do in your marriage, remember that your seed are the target. There’s a contest between heaven and hell on your seed.
Bottom line: burn the bridge of divorce behind you and look beyond yourself to the generations yet unborn. Then the sacrifice will be worth it. Jesus endured the cross because he looked into the future and saw you and me. He had eternity in mind!
Repent of your selfishness and nearsightedness and commit your home to the Lord.
Declare that you shall remain one.
Pray that the God of peace would bruise the devil under the feet of every christian home
Pray for the nation God will cause the nation, its leaders and every circumstance in it to promote God’s idea of marriage alone.